Food For Thought (11/1/20)
Hi Friends,
I hope you are doing wonderful and finding a few minutes to take a deep breath and nourish your soul with some new learnings. Sit with yourself, calm your breathing, a few inhales, a few exhales...awwwwwwwwww. I feel better, what about you?
With that here are a few resources I found very helpful this past month that helped me keep my sanity, re-visit my current perspectives and try to re-shift the ones that no longer made sense. I hope they help you too.
Articles:
The truth is: people who set boundaries gain respect. Boundaries tell other people that your time is valuable, that you’re someone they can’t just walk over. If you always say yes, they’ll simply take you for granted. And that applies to the people you work with, your friends, your family, and all of your relationships.
People like other people who set boundaries because they know where they stand with them. When you don’t know where you stand, you can’t fully open up and trust the other person. So by having boundaries you make it possible to have relationships that are healthier and more meaningful, at work and in every other area of your life. And that’s a scenario in which everybody’s a winner.
100 Couples Share Their Secrets to a Successful Relationship
I’ve been a newlywed for exactly one week, and I have learned exactly one thing: The idea that marriage changes everything is kind of a myth.
Sure, you’re now legally bound to each other, but your partnership remains largely unchanged. Your conflict-resolution strategies are the same. Your communication patterns are the same. Your general outlook on life is the same.
To optimize for a great partnership, though, all of those things need to evolve in the long-term.
After asking Profile readers to share their best marriage advice, I’ve learned another very important thing: If you stop investing in yourself, your bad habits and poor communication will chip away at your relationship — whether you’re married or not.
Worth taking:
A key to Mental Fitness is to weaken the internal Saboteurs who generate all your “negativity” in the way they respond to challenges. Your Saboteurs cause all your stress, anxiety, self-doubt, frustration, regret, shame, guilt, and unhappiness. Saboteurs include the Judge, Controller, Avoider, Victim, Stickler and 5 others.
Your “Sage” lives in an entirely different region of your brain and handles challenges in ways that produce positive emotions like curiosity, empathy, creativity, calm, and clear-headed laser-focused action. You’d perform better and feel happier.
This is a great assessment that will help you discover your top Saboteurs>>
Worth watching:
Rabbi Wolpe: Do the Important Before the Urgent - Rabbi David Wolpe talks about how technology encourages you to focus on the urgent, not the important, and how to do the opposite.
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Someone struggled for your right to vote. Use it.
Until next time, stay safe and please VOTE, VOTE, VOTE. That’s it; that’s the way we move forward.
Dena
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